Several years back I started trying rough sex on Jennifer. Therapists define a sexless relationship as one in which the couple are physically intimate less than 10 times a year. It can be intense because the line is there to be crossed. Use your safe word. She called it "animalistic" and "over the top". So much of modern dating culture is built around the concept of being cool and chill and never being the Rough sex with spouse who cares more.